Weep With Those Who Weep

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No parent wants to lose a child.  It is a nightmare we all hope we never have to live through.  When tragedy strikes, our hearts break, and we weep with those who weep.  There are no words that can turn back time to the minutes before.  There is no comfort that can ease the ‘what ifs.’  There are no answers to the ‘whys.’  It is all so very incomprehensible and unexplainable.  These are the time defining moments in life which forever mark our days, as before and after.

Our community is reeling from the loss of Easton Cain.  A freak accident in a parking lot…how does this even happen?  A mom going about her normal day of grocery shopping ends up with her 3-year-old son dead, because of a drunk driver? It is the stuff of nightmares. Nothing that can be said or done can ever change the outcome of this tragic event.  For them there will always be a before-Easton-died life, and an after.  The hole in the family, and in the community is gaping…an open wound which is deep and painful.  Grief rises up and takes hold of our hearts and squeezes them breathless.  Tears overflow our eyes and slide down our cheeks.  Even our attempted prayers seem hollow in light of the overwhelming pain we feel for this family.  We want to help, but we know we cannot do anything but stand by to hold space and allow them their grief.

In these days, we grapple with our faith.  Questions of God’s goodness are on parade in our minds.  We dare not speak them, but we wonder and wrestle.  We wail and we wish that terrible things like this never happened. Some shake fists at God, and others point fingers at men.  Some cry out to authorities, and others bow their knees to pray.  Every person reacts differently, but hopefully, no matter what our personal response, we will all surround those affected with love and care…and prayer.

Lord,

We do not know what to say.  We do not know how to deal with the horror that this event brings.  We only know to ask for your grace and mercy.  Please be with the families affected, for this is tragic on all sides.  Holy Spirit bring your comfort to those who grieve.  Hold them up.  Give them supernatural strength.  You are near to the brokenhearted, so we know that you are close in this situation because hearts are shattered.  Pick up the pieces Lord.  Gather them in your hand and pour your healing power into them.

We look for good in bad situations, but sometimes it seems there is none.  This is one of those times.  We do not understand Lord.  Help us not to resort to clichés, and empty words in an effort to explain this away.  There are no words.  Help us to hold tight to your hand and to know that you will always be beside us in times of pain, even in unexplainable circumstances.

Guide the authorities in their investigation.  Be with the healthcare workers who were at the scene.  Surround the witnesses with your presence.  Bring peace that passes understanding.  Give us your heart.  Help us to feel compassion and to be sensitive to those involved.  Pour out your healing on our community.  Fill us with your grace that is kind, caring, and nurturing in hard places.  We ask for your light to shine in the darkness.  For you to somehow be made known in hearts and minds, in ways that show your deep love for this family in their loss.

Grace. Peace. Hope. Compassion. Comfort. We ask for all these in the name of Jesus.  Amen.

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24 thoughts on “Weep With Those Who Weep

  1. So very sorry for the loss of this precious baby boy, sending prayers that God will wrap his loving arms around all of you for comfort and peace….

  2. I’m the aunt of the 5 yr old boy who was killed in the tragic accident in Barrow County last week. Can someone please put me in contact with this family? I wanted to reach out to them and express our family’s condolences to them as we are going through the exact same thing. And maybe we can all be a support system for each other.

  3. It is on our brokenness and deepest sorrows that we are the closest to our Abba father. I witnessed my 2 year old nephew pass, the most heartbreaking event. Recently lost my 55 year old mother unexpectedly, and can honestly say that in this deep time of sadness, Jesus has been the most faithful to comfort than ever. My prayers for the family from here until the return of our Savior.

  4. This is the most terrible news that my wife and I have heard this week. Only a parent that has suffered a similar loss can ever understand what your family is going through. Our prayers are with you.

  5. This is so sad. I arrived at work yesterday afternoon at Mountain Education Charter High School in Cleveland only to see co-workers in tears and to hear this terrible news. Praying for the family, the wider community, and for all of Easton’s little friends at Resurrection Preschool who have to learn way too early in their young lives about tragedy in this world.

  6. I know what those parents are feeling. On June 15, 2010 I lost a son in a drowning accident just a few weeks before his 16th birthday. It is a feeling that cannot be adequately described in words, but it is instantly and universally understood by all of us who have experienced it. We are related in a way that no one should ever want to be related, and I would not wish such feelings upon even my worst enemy. I can attest that while there are moments at which they will feel at peace, it will be a part of them for the rest of their lives. There is no absolute comfort, there is no complete escape from the sense of loss, and there is nothing anyone else can do to remove all of the pain. Fortunately, there are three things I have found that can help them to continue moving forward: Time, which softens the pain; Family and Friends, who help by simply being there when they need an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry; and the Faith and Grace of a loving God who also suffered the death of a Son. I offer my prayers to them, as many had offered them to my family and continue to do so to this day.

    • Mike,
      Thanks for sharing your painful story with me. I am so sorry for your loss. You are right that it is a club none of us want to be a member of. It is my prayer that all of you find comfort and solace among each other and that there is unity in the grief that will bring some sense of comfort that you are not alone. I know the God of whom you speak, and I know that he holds all who walk in deep dark places close to his heart. He has never failed me in any of my traumatic moments. Prayers for his healing touch on your heart and those in this family.

  7. Michelle, Easton was my Great Nephew and he was our heart and soul. He was a happy, smart and very loving little boy. He will be missed more than words can ever express. I wanted to thank you on behalf of our families for the beautiful words you have written of which I have read and re-read numerous times. Thank you again and God Bless.

    • Tanna, I only wish I could offer more than words. My prayers continue to be with you and your family. Please let me know if there is ever anything tangible that they need. I’d be happy to post requests if they need anything. God bless you all.

  8. I too have lost a precious child (my first grandson), but can’t imagine the horror this family is enduring. My heart breaks for you all. You will do what’s necessary on automatic pilot and face the pained condolences of friends and loved ones, with as much appreciation as you can muster. In reality, you will almost be “outside of your body”. The “daze” is a survival technique, I never knew existed, until my loss. It’s true, you will survive and allow yourself to smile again, I promise. But give yourself the permission to grieve in your own way. I pray the Lord keeps you in his arms until the fog begins to lift and the sun, can once again shine in your broken heart.

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